David

Hey there, and thanks for visiting 'His Therapist'. I wanted to let you know a little about myself, my work, and why I started this resource for men. You can ask me anything and get to know me better in our initial session together.

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First, let me get my credentials out of the way. I have a PhD in Psychology and am also a fully licensed Psychotherapist. Does this make me an expert in everything? Hardly. I've long since dropped the notion that therapists have access to some secret knowledge that unlocks the mystery of happiness. Let's dispel that myth right here. I'm just a guy like you, no different.

 

What I can say is that I've found something in life I feel good about doing. It took me a long time to find it, but here I am. I love talking with people about their lives. I love the honesty we get to in the work. What makes me happiest is seeing the penny drop or that lightbulb moment when my clients realize something big. They see through a falsehood that kept them limited, stuck or conflicted.

 

In truth, my credentials are really just pieces of paper. Sure, they give the theory and some framework. But they're no substitute for someone who cares about the work and has empathy for the clients they see. I have that.

 

I also have experience. I've worked with literally hundreds of men at this point, close to a thousand over the years. I've heard their stories and understood their pain and frustrations. 

 

Above all, I've walked the same path myself, and faced many of the same challenges. 

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So, what prompted me to start this resource for men? Let me share a brief story. Many years ago, I needed help. I was in a bad situation and it was taking its toll on me psychologically and emotionally. I couldn't sleep, was developing ulcers from stress and anxiety, and just generally felt like crap.

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Of course, I didn’t get any help. I remember walking past a local therapy center everyday during this period. Did it peak my interest? Did I walk in and inquire about how they could help? No, I didn't.

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The truth is, I didn't even consider it. It seemed like something for other people. To be honest, I felt they wouldn't understand what I was going through or might even judge me.

 

I somehow managed to weather the storm and came through ok. In the end, I was lucky enough to have a good friend who helped me regain perspective. 

 

But looking back, from the point of view of the therapist I am now, that memory of walking past that local therapy center has stayed with me. Why was it so difficult for me to reach out and ask for some support and guidance?

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As I gained more experience as a therapist, I realized I was far from alone in this experience. That bothered me. I knew that, with the right help, I could have been saved months of anguish and psychological inner conflict.

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That's why I set up this resource. I wanted to reach men who, like I did, feel skeptical of therapy. The work here is about conducting therapy in an environment in which men feel free to be themselves. No judgement. Just support and an understanding ear.

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What I've learned from working with men is that no two are the same. Every man has his own story, his own aspirations, and his own challenges.

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However, themes emerge. Men care about their sense of purpose in life. They care about forming meaningful connections and relationships. They care about understanding themselves better and reconciling their inner conflicts to move forward in life.

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The focus of my work has been on just that. What you'll get here is unconditional support as well as facilitation in exploring the deeply personal issues you care about.

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Do you need therapy? No. Probably not. But could it help? Could it move you along faster? Could it help you see things differently and relate to yourself differently? When done in the right context, with the right intention, absolutely.

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I'll leave it there for now. Have a think about it and if you want to know more, just reach out.

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Very best,

David

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